I have been thinking a lot lately about friends. What makes a good friend? What it takes to be a good friend? And would like to ask for your opinions on this one as well. It would be nice to have a discussion on the topic.

You always hear this quote: “A friend is someone who knows your weaknesses and still likes you.”

But is it more than that. There are people what I thought were friends but found out later that it was the situation that created the friendship. I have learned that if you really want to find out who a friend is, you need to move the friendship to a different environment to see if it is really a friendship. An example of that is when you hear “Work Friend”, “School Friend”, or “Church Friend”. These are people who you would classify as friends, but would they still be friends if they were to see you in a different environment other than work, school, or church? Lets take it one step further and add “Family Friend”, are members of your family really friends, or just people that are friends because of the situation or environment they are in?

Here are some more quotes about friendship that I think are more meaningfully.

“You meet people who forget you. You forget people you meet. But sometimes you meet those people you can’t forget. Those are your ‘friends.’”

“The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.”

My personal opinion is that a friend is someone that you want to spend time with. Someone you want to share you life with. A friend is someone that when you experience something you want them to also experience it. If you run across something that you think they would like you want to share it with them. A friend is someone who’s problems are your problems and you are search for solutions for them as your own. If something is bothering a friend, then that thing is also bothering you, and you want to eliminate it for that friend.

I would rather have a few close friends, then a thousand “Work, School, or Church” friends.

One quote I read said “A friend will bail you out of jail, but a best friend is sitting there next to you saying that was awesome” I think that this quote is correct, a friend is someone that would help you out, but a best friend is someone that is involved enough in your life to be there during the crisis, not after it.

The true definition of friend for me is wife. I would rather have a real good friendship with my wife then a thousand Work, School, or Church friends. I am lucky enough to have a friend that is there through all my crisis and supporting me through them. But instead of her saying that was awesome, it is usually, that was really stupid.


  1. Spouse are the best when they are your best friends too! Did you know in Russia they only call really close friends "friends" everyone else is an associate. When I first head that I thought, that is kinda cold, but then think about the warmth of being called a friend it was only saved for the closest!

  2. I totally agree with you because I think of the many times that I have had a "friend," but I never did anything with him after school was out. Was he really my friend? Probably not. Perhaps it is deeper and more about interests and it you think about the friend before yourself… Just a thought.

  3. I just read this and here's my feminine perspective: I TOTALLY agree with the statement, "The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.”
    I have so many "friends" that get offended when I'm not actively entertaining the relationship. The thing is, I think we all try to nurture our close relationships, but our time with our families really should come before our time with our friends. I think really good friends understand and respect each others' priorities and boundaries. I also think that the best friends ARE like family. By that I mean that with a family member, you don't have to call them every day for them to know you love them, but you'll always be there for them through thick and thin, you are in each other's thoughts and prayers. The best of friendships are the same.

    P.S. I agree with you – your wife ROCKS!

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